We often wonder if we are doing the wrong thing at the wrong time. Career choices and life decisions mostly seem immature. We wish we had taken a step or two differently while we were younger and still at college. And while the heap of our regrets only keeps increasing, when it comes to changing the situation that we have got ourselves into, we continue to hesitate. Surprisingly, following our heart seems to be the biggest gamble of our lives.
Although most people write off frustration and disappointments as an essential part of life, there are a few who have gone against the current (Read, followed their hearts) and are now celebrating every moment of their life journey. What is it that they did differently? Has it got something to do with their upbringing and genes? Are their families more liberal? No, it is none of the above. (Well, may be some of the above for some rare lucky ones.) It was and always will be the art of being honest with yourself and sticking to your dreams that has worked, no matter what. Here are a few tips for going forward with your dream:
- Acknowledge and respect your dream:
Start respecting your dream instead of dusting it off your sleeve. Be proud about every single one of your crazy ideas. Imagine what the world would be today, if Graham Bell had dismissed his idea as an absolutely crazy one-off thought! First of all, stop calling it a mere ‘idea’. Elevate it by calling it ‘an initiative’, ‘a design’, may be even a ‘brain wave’. Sounds fun already, doesn’t it?
- Think of life after your dream has come true:
Just for a while, imagine what life would be if all of your crazy ideas were to turn true. Enlist the benefits that you would enjoy living your dream. If this exercise transports you to an absolutely blissful world, befriend yourself and walk yourself to that idyllic place. Well, the only argument to hold you back is what you may call ‘job stability’. A job which assures you a monthly payment at the cost of your mental peace is far from a stable one, it is a leech sucking all your ambitions out of you. You may rise to the position of a CEO doing the dreary job that you currently do, but your mind will always hassle you with ‘what if’ questions that could unsettle you till you die. Now, you don’t want that, do you? So get moving!
- Make an action plan:
Yes, this might appear highly premature but make an action plan to help your ideas blossom to reality. Since it’s an idea that prods you, only you can shape it. But for that, you need to start working on it. Sit down with your organiser, calendar, paper or slate, whatever you use to make timelines on. Plan for each day and allocate specific hours and detail out exactly what you plan to achieve during those hours. Make another list of reasons and arguments that you could use to procrastinate. Now promise yourself that you won’t fall for items on that list. Once, your schedule seems absolutely workable to you, it’s time to start following it.
- Positivity is the key:
Life will seem uphill once implementation begins. Unforeseen errors in your plan will start showing up and you are likely to slip into a full-blown self-blame mode for your error in judgement. The one and only way of wading through this is to remain truly positive and to keep reminding yourself of all the benefits that you enlisted which you get to enjoy by simply sticking to the plan. Demotivation, parental pressure, fear of being ridiculed, sense of aimlessness would be redeemed only by keeping the flame of inner positivity burning throughout. You may take help of any mental booster which works for you ranging from just a simple quote from your idol to heavier ones such as motivational videos or self-help books. Louise Hay, the famous author of ‘You can heal your life’, who has herself battled through many circumstantial hardships, has time and again stressed on the power of one’s thoughts. She has successfully demonstrated the power of daily affirmations. Here is one which you could repeat to yourself:
“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.”
Once the problems fix themselves, your story is a success! You are a hit! You may not be the CEO of your company, you may be a blogger, a chef, a pet hairdresser or all of that together (if that’s what your dream is!) but you would be happy, sorted and in a state of mental peace!
What about money? If money was part of your dream, you will have that too! Else, who cares!
So stop hard-working, it will only give you dark circles and wrinkles; start heart working instead, it will make you feel lighter and bestow you with a life worth living!